“To assert oneself is to defend one’s point of view without exaggerated anxiety, to express one’s feelings with sincerity and ease, to have one’s rights respected, while respecting those of others” (Alberti and Emmons, 1978).
The psychologist’s goal in this case is to learn to communicate effectively and to assert himself in social, personal and professional life.
Taking stock of one’s relational style
-Get to know his interpersonal style better,
-Identify the 3 ineffective behaviours: passivity, aggressivity, manipulation,
-Identify the causes and consequences for oneself and others of these behaviours.
-What is assertiveness? -What is assertiveness? (the 6 domains of assertiveness)
Learn the techniques of non-verbal behaviour (the basics of effective communication)
Asserting yourself in a relationship
-Dare to ask
-Knowing how to say no when necessary and without justification.
-Know how to pay a compliment but also know how to answer it.
-Know how to formulate a constructive criticism
-Seeing criticism as information, not as a questioning
-Respond serenely to unjustified criticism
Responding to aggressive behaviour
-Facing aggression with proven techniques
-Responding to a true criticism
-Responding to vague or false criticism
-Manage aggressive reproaches with techniques (refusal of form)
Build on your qualities and successes to gain self-confidence.
-Positivate the difficulties
-Shut up the little negative voices that discourage us.
-Improve exchanges and contacts
Drawing up an action plan
-Identify areas for improvement in self-assertion
-Set realistic progress targets.